Connection

Commitment

Resilience

“Relationship is the pre-condition for change. Every meeting has to get people connected first. Otherwise, the content falls on deaf ears."

-Peter Block

Help your team stop…

  • Collapsing into zero-sum thinking

  • Sinking into cynical disengagement

  • Clinging to escapist fantasies

JEFFREY’S BOOK

"Humanizing Public Conversation is an excellent read with practical advice for public servants committed to engaging the public and creating a government that truly serves its people. I highly recommend this book as a valuable guide for earning public trust.”

Lea Eriksen, Director of Technology & Innovation; Chief Information Officer, City of Long Beach, CA

Navigate Challenges Together.

“My team’s retreat was a transformative experience that helped us build resilience and learn the tools necessary to thrive despite big change."

Grace Schoessow, Director, Green County Early Childhood Mental Health

Meet Jeffrey

My work is shifting emphasis from facilitating public conversations to fostering team-transforming vulnerability.

For the past two and a half years, I’ve lived in a liminal space—between life phases, filled with uncertainty and anxiety. But by surrounding myself with those who demand radical honesty, I’ve learned how vulnerability shifts the context from content to connection, which is the key to finding solutions that meet everyone’s needs; when people embrace vulnerability, conflicts dissolve and solutions emerge.

With 20+ years of experience facilitating conversations, I know how to get people talking about what matters. Now, I model and inspire vulnerability, helping teams address relational barriers that hinder great work. Using a unique mix of questions and interactive formats, I guide tough conversations into lasting breakthroughs.

I appreciate your interest in improving teamwork and community.


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Services

  • Paradigm Introduction

    This 90-minute experience will illuminate the Humanizing paradigm while helping you better understand your situation.

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  • Public Facilitation

    Let me take the heat for you – I can settle emotional public battles and find common ground and compromise in complex situations.

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  • Team Training

    Looking to generate public trust? Let me train your team to humanize conversations through practice and performance coaching. 

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  • Team Retreats

    Through mindfulness and vulnerability, participants clarify their strengths and improve collaboration to confidently navigate change together.

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Testimonials

  • “My team’s retreat was a transformative experience. With gentle guidance, we discovered our team has the tools and capacity to navigate uncertainty.  Together we co-created our version of the Playbook for Liminality that’s full of tools that helped us build resilience, strengthen connections, and see uncertainty as an opportunities for growth. The combination of mindfulness practices, vulnerability exercises, and future-oriented activities created an environment of trust and empowerment. We continue to draw upon these experiences, using them to deepen our collaboration and adaptability in our work. This retreat didn’t just address our challenges, it gave us a sustainable way to thrive through change together. With gratitude…"

    Grace Schoessow, MS, OIMHP-III, ECMH-C; Infant & Early Childhood Mental Health, Director; Greene County Educational Service Center

  • “Jeffrey Stec’s work is more important than ever in a society that seems to have lost its way in working together to solve shared problems. Every issue we face as a society is an opportunity to build community – Jeffrey’s techniques and suggestions provide the structure to do just that.”

    -  Steve Johns, AICP, Assistant Director, Planning and Development, Hamilton County, Ohio

  • Inclusive dialogue has never been more critical. Jeffrey Stec’s work helps generate both insight and action, unleash our curiosity, check our biases at the door, and engage people in productive conversation. Debate is healthy and important; doing it with empathy, compassion, and a willingness to grow and evolve is essential to progress. Thanks, Jeff, for helping us explore how to do that."

    - Jennifer Temple, Executive Vice President, Communications, Hewlett Packard Enterprise

Check Out The Blog

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TEAM VULNERABILITY = TEAM RESILIENCE
TEAM VULNERABILITY = TEAM RESILIENCE
The Humanizing Method
The Humanizing Method
When Will the Public Accept “No”?
When Will the Public Accept “No”?
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What’s in a pothole?
Mending Our Mindset
Mending Our Mindset

 FAQs

  • A Community Facilitator helps guide conversations, build consensus, and foster collaboration within communities or organizations to address key issues and goals. They act as neutral parties to ensure all voices are heard, and they help communities create actionable plans for positive change.

  • Leaders should hire neutral facilitators because their power will bias the dialog, and they might get defensive if attacked. Let someone else ask the tough questions and take the heat. 

  • Through the following principles, I foster vulnerability, the key to building high-trust groups who find resilience in each other...

    1. Connection before content

      • Through small group discussions and powerful personal questions

    2. Understanding before debate

      • Through the Five Whys and Needs Mapping processes  

    3. Co-creation rather than argumentation

      • Through asset mapping and consideration of trade-offs

    4. Cooperation rather than isolation

      • Through mutually supportive roles that serve the whole

    My facilitation style helps everyone feel heard and inspires them to contribute...

    1. I'm curious about what really matters to people and dig deep into people's motivations.

    2. I hold space for and empathize with everyone's emotions so we can process them together

    3. I focus on gifts rather than deficiencies.

    4. I foster self-discovery and collective learning.

    5. I reframe conflict as an opportunity for understanding.

    6. I clarify complex issues by organizing concepts and illuminating details 

    7. I energize the room as inspiring possibilities emerge from difficult polarities.

    Results in MUTUAL TRUST, SHARED ACCOUNTABILITY, COMMUNITY RESILIENCE 


  • I bring a deep understanding of community dynamics, urban planning, and sustainable development, combined with a passion for equitable outcomes. My experience working across diverse communities allows me to adapt to different settings and create customized facilitation strategies that work.

  • The length of a project depends on its complexity. Some projects, like a single workshop or town hall meeting, may only take a day, while larger community development projects may require ongoing facilitation over several months.